He met her on a party, she was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he was so normal, nobody paid attention to him. At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised, but due to politeness, she promised. They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, she thought, please, let me back home. Suddenly he asked the waiter: would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee.

Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red, but, still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously: why you have this hobby? He replied: when I was a little boy, I was living near the sea, I like playing in the sea, I could felt the taste of the sea, salty and bite, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I will think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who still living there. Saying that, tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart.

"A man who can tell out his homesick, he must be a man loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home," she thought. Then she also started to talk, talked about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family. That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continue to date. She found actually he was a man who meets all her demands: he was tolerance, kind hearted, warm, careful...he was such a good guy but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee!!

Then the story was just like every beautiful love story: the princess married to the prince, then they were living the happy life...And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked.

After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said: "My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life lie. This was the only lie I said to you, the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It's hard for me to change so I just go ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything.. Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth: I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste.. but I have the salty coffee for my whole life since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life.

If I can live for the second time, I still want to know you and have you as my whole life wife, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again."

Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her: What's the taste of salty coffee?

It's sweet. She replied.

This is one lovely story that inspires me the most. How’s a lover dare to keep his life not like he’s wanted, only to be with his mate. As much as I wanted to believe this story, that much the world try to claim to me, this story was only a story. But, its do gave hopes to every lover in the world such a story had existed.

Drinking salt coffee for the whole life must be unpleasant, how the taste was weird and not amused at all, definitely not a great feeling. But as the story claimed, he rather to felt those weird tastes more then tells her that he was lied to her his whole life, must be most difficult to choose. If he wanted to stop those “freaking coffee moment”, he needs to hurt her heart by telling the truth. And it turns to be, lying is the best choice here.

Most of the girls, women or female will be extremely mad if their man were lying to them, and without intention knowing the explanations, women will accuse their man was a liar. Not trying to defenses mans, but SOMETIMES man lies with a good reason. They maybe just want to protect their female from being hurts or, maybe to protect himself from to get hurt losing someone they love.

My topic tonight is, did lies is needed in one relationship? I betcha, most of the guys will agree with me, while girls will fully against me!! ;)

I wonder, did ‘she’ in the story above ever felt guilty for making her husband drank salt coffee his whole life and after he dead, what’s she been thinking?

She must hate herself, maybe blaming herself too….

She will, maybe, but she mustn’t be. Because, all her husband tries to do is only making them both happy, but, if she felt miserable after his death, the sacrifices are worthless?

Indeed, necessarily, the truth is most important in our life, and everybody living in this world deserves to know the truth. But, believe me girls, sometimes we don’t need to know the truth, or ever if we needed, not all the lies are bad things. Sometimes lies just trying not to change the life should be. Imagine if (he in the story above), telling the truth to his wife, and (unpredictable of a female actions) maybe she will be mad, maybe she will thought that, “he’s been lying to me, his whole life, how for me to trust him, there must be many lies more that he not telling me”, then, TRUST, maybe a bit, but will be, decrease in a time, and then relationship will falling down without a trust. Did she ever want that? Definitely, not for sure!! But, ever she realize? We won’t sure.

So, how she should do??? Believe his lies????

Well, she can :-

Use her ‘wife instinct’, if the male lies for good things, girls won’t felt uncomfortable, but if your male doing a wrong thing, before it begins, you will know it, trust me. Have a faith, trust in your mate. And thinking the purpose of his action, of cause you can be mad, but don’t accuse him. Communication is the MOST important things in relationship, if anything happen, never give a chance to your communication process getting lack!! Always give a time to your mate to speak, if you want your relationship keep going. Mans always wanna say something, but they will take a long time to think before they said it. And if you, females, can’t control yourself, make a time between both of you, then; get back to him for explanations. Less expectation will make you less hurts, don’t expect he too much being faithful, have yourself, is those bad lies come up, you wont fall, and most important things, even if anything happens, girls need to stand for herself!!

Love your mate, girls, but love yourself first, remember, future always be unwritten!!

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